Posted by shrinking violet on August 27, 2004, at 19:40:53
In reply to Re: T cancelled next appt.... *sob, whine*, posted by DaisyM on August 26, 2004, at 18:27:51
> You got double-whammied...you were "waiting" for your turn and not only do you have to wait longer, but you now know that your Therapist has something really important to focus on, and it isn't you. Ouch. That can really hurt. It is totally OK to feel this way, don't beat yourself up for it. But at least you know that she didn't cancel you to get her nails done...and that should help some.
True, she isn't getting her nails done (um, I don't think...*lol*), and I know she wouldn't have cancelled unless she had to. Actually, though, it doesn't bother me that my T is focusing on her mom (or other clients, issues, etc) instead of me. I know my T has personal issues just like everyone else, and I know she isn't perfect, and I know she has other clients, and none of that bothers me. My T is good in always letting me know that I'm very special to her and her caseload, she always tells me she cares in a very real and genuine way (and shows it also), and has told me that she thinks of me a lot outside of the office, and last session she admitted that I get a side of her that most other clients don't due to our closeness and special relationship. And her saying that is good enough for me. I guess I feel more guilty because even knowing all of that, I still had a negative reaction to her rescheduling because of *my* needs and feelings (I tend to apologize for those a lot, as my T says).
Thanks for taking the time to respond.
> Nobody wants to be reminded that their therapist have lives and are only human. God forbid that they get sick! But they are. Hang in there. Try all of the basic distraction techniques, and count the days the way Dinah does...it will make the time go faster.
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> And keep posting. You'll get lots of sympathy here about missing my Therapist.
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