Posted by Pfinstegg on July 1, 2004, at 18:11:14
In reply to Reading your Therapist's signals, posted by DaisyM on June 29, 2004, at 18:57:37
Interesting thread! As someone in analysis, mostly lying down on a couch, a lot of what my analyst and I do is interact with one another- verbally, but also by repose or movement of one another's bodies, and the tone of each other's voices, as well as by the feeling of the silences between us- whether it it tense and fearful, or peaceful and comforting. Now that he knows most of what has happened, emotionally, to me in my life, the sessions are mostly taken up by our reactions to one another- not just mine to him, but also his to me. We continually share these, which allows both of us to correct misunderstandings we may have. I tend to have all the same doubts as everyone else here- especially, I tend to feel that I may have "outlived my welcome" there, and may be unwanted or disliked. He really wants me to tell him these feelings as they occur; he won't correct me, but he'll say something like, "those are the experiences you had with your parents- it's hard for you to imagine that I'm not like them". Then I begin to realize that I naturally wouldn't imagine anything that good- but I have the freedom to do so there. It's just little by little, but it's helping a lot. Talking *to* one another *about* one another seems to be a mainstay of the new psychoanalysis!
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