Posted by gardenergirl on June 30, 2004, at 1:12:05
In reply to Re: Reading your Therapist's signals, posted by shadows721 on June 29, 2004, at 22:20:38
Daisy,
I have found that when I think I am reading signals, I can never get a straight answer, or it shifts back to me, of course, evil man. But the signals I comment on are boredom, irritation, air of criticism, etc. And I find that I am usually projecting these onto him. Or in the case of boredom, he didn't think he was bored, but he wondered what might be defended that wasn't coming out, leading to somebody being bored. It gets so confusing at times.I have noticed a bit of a shift in transference lately. It's not all positive/idealized/dependent. Now, I am finding I feel like I need to please him more and worry more about criticism or that he thinks I'm hopeless. Last session he talked around this after noticing it, and then acknowledged that he talked around it. Which of course made me worry that he is uncomfortable with my dependence. Like maybe it's time to start gnawing at the cord at bit. So I am determined to talk about it tomorrow and see if he avoids again. It's not like him.
Ack, reading signals is hard. You are right, when I feel like closing my eyes or take my glasses off (hard on days I wear contacts! :) ), it's probably because I'm afraid of what signal I might see there.
Good topic.
And, as usual, kudos to your T.
gg
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