Posted by mair on June 3, 2004, at 17:03:00
In reply to Re: Be Careful What You Wish For (long) » mair, posted by Dinah on June 3, 2004, at 9:58:20
... is pretty much my tendency. I think my T had no choice but to tell me about the separation, and I'm glad she did. I wouldn't have wanted to hear it from another source and I had apparently given her the impression that I maybe sensed (or knew) something was wrong.
That she is separated is hardly earth shattering news, certainly in this day and age and I need to hold on to that perspective.
This is a rare instance where my reaction was not "what does this mean for me," although I've certainly had those before. I think I was just unprepared for my level of concern for her, and I think I'd just as soon keep a lid on that. Besides I can't see a way of talking about it without wanting to delve into things that are essentially none of my business.
I met with her this afternoon; I think I managed to sidestep this issue somewhat smoothly, although I knew she wanted to go there (or at least somewhere on the periphery) and I felt like a real jerk for not letting her.
The main reason I started this thread to begin with is that I've always been struck by the amount of "ink" expended here on the subject of wanting to get closer to a therapist. I just think it's a double edged sword.
Thanks for all of the responses.
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