Posted by mair on June 2, 2004, at 21:19:15
In reply to Re: Be Careful What You Wish For (long), posted by Aphrodite on June 2, 2004, at 19:59:54
"That must have been absolutely surreal to have that kind of information and insight into your therapist."Very surreal, then (when i read the book), and even now when I think about the book. I can't figure out whether it was for the best - I think the whole process of talking about the book was the foundation for me getting a little more comfortable talking about our relationship although I'm probably light years away from feeling as comfortable as I should. And I guess I know that she's not likely to trivialize what i go through with my husband. On the other hand, I'm the one in this relationship who most likes to keep a distance - I've never had any problem crossing boundaries. I'm not at all sure I like having to "personalize" my therapist.
" (Glad the two of you were able to work through it.)"
I think the jury is still out on that. I've pretty much decided I'm going to decline to talk about this in my next session. Her only need should be to make sure I don't subconsciously feel pressured to make the same decisions about my marriage that maybe she's made about hers, and to make sure that my "knowledge" isn't inhibiting me from talking about my own marriage. Neither is the truth - so anything we'd discuss beyond that, seems irrelevant. What I've most discovered is that I really don't like worrying about her, which is alot of what I've been doing lately.
Mair
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