Posted by joslynn on June 3, 2004, at 12:24:28
In reply to Re: Be Careful What You Wish For (long) » mair, posted by Dinah on June 3, 2004, at 9:58:20
I have been told little things that I wanted to hear yet didn't want to hear at the same time.
Like one time, when I was talking about how I didn't like it when a certain person in my life yelled and the T mentioned their spouse as an example of the same dysfunctional confrontational style! And then a disclaimer afterwards of "but I shouldn't have disclosed that" is added, but it's still out there.
And of course I didn't say then that it made me uncomfortable (yet strangely superior to the spouse) to hear those things.
So then I wonder, do I revisit the issue and say please don't disclose stuff like that again, or wait to see if/when a similar mistake is made and then say something. It is not a common occurence.
Part of me likes to hear those things, because then I think, well, I am more even-tempered than the spouse sounds, despite all my problems, so nyah nyah, don't you wish you had married wonderful me? (Even though that would not even be logically possible in the space-time continuum.)
And another part of me thinks, uh oh, if things are wrong in your marriage, how can you possibly help me find the right person?
I can certainly understand the limits on self-disclosure.
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