Posted by SatinDoll on November 26, 2006, at 21:35:39
In reply to Re: How to Support and Help, posted by Dr. Bob on November 26, 2006, at 18:02:36
> > The idea here is to be supportive. If you're not sure if something will be supportive, one thing you can do is ask yourself how you think the other person will react. If you think they'll appreciate it, that's a sign that it might be supportive. If you think they won't, that's a sign that it might not.
Well I think everyone is different on what they appreciate or not appreciate. I appreciate honesty even if it is not what I want to hear. I also appreciate hugs, but if that is all I got, and not constructive advice, I probably wouldn't be on this site. I wouldn't have progressed in therapy if my T only told me what I wanted to hear, in fact I wouldn't have gotten very far in life either. I don't feel being "overprotective" is actually being supportive either, in fact it may do more harm than good. If an individual only expects hugs, then that also sets them up for disappointment.
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