Posted by Racer on November 22, 2006, at 1:21:06
In reply to Re: My bulimia and the eating board, posted by Deneb on November 21, 2006, at 21:21:57
> Just because I purge more when I come here does not mean that coming here causes my purging.
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>Answer? Yes, I do think that getting attention on this board is bad for you. And if you purge more when you come here, then yes -- this board is increasing your problem.
I agree with Elaine: get a therapist, or see your pdoc more often. I'd add that DBT would be a good model for you, too, as it teaches skills for coping with stress.
Although I realize that this is skirting the line of the guidelines, you asked what people thought. I think, from watching your behavior here and at another board, that you have a significant problem which you're not dealing with, and that instead, you focus attention on problems that may or may not exist. Maybe if you put some of that energy into facing your underlying problem, the other things would go away.
Also, Deneb, the other thing I've observed about you is that you really seem to be hungry for negative attention -- it's not enough to have attention for being funny or smart, you need to get sympathy of a sort. It's like the breast cancer scare, or now bulimia -- it seems as though you enjoy the sick role, the role of a child, or a supplicant. You don't seem to want to interact as equals with others, if that makes sense?
You've babblemailed me asking if I was ignoring you. Yes, and largely because of a lot of what you've written here on this board. I don't think that getting attention on this board is good for you -- I think you'll continue to engage in behaviors harmful to yourself in order to continue getting attention here.
If you want my attention, Deneb, you can have it -- but only if you approach me as someone who is, like me, reaching for health. As long as it seems to me that you're looking for attention by being "sick," I've got other places to devote my attention.
Peace
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