Posted by muffled on December 3, 2010, at 12:05:32
In reply to Re: blocked, posted by Dinah on December 3, 2010, at 11:10:43
Dinah, you the sweetest, I just love how you post!!!
Now THAT I miss:)
I sorry you was so hurt in MS. I got a D in MS and it tough for sure.
And yes, I agree 'truth'(if its even truth, it may be lies) thrown repeatedly in ones face in order to hurt is not good.
But truth, respectfully submitted in order to try and help another make change...well, I agree, its a slippery slope....and yes, people will sometimes get hurt.....but then that is how there is change.
Its a real big word for sure. There are alot of delicacy in the application.
Also, I think with all our 'politeness' sometimes....that our skins have beciome too thin, and so much real communication is being lost in this world.
See eg, if specifically you Dinah, were to point out a truth to me that I didn't know(or was ignoring...) and it was initially hurtful and I felt mad. I would soon get over being mad, because of who it came from(and knowing you, it would be very carefully phrased!), and consider that it IS proabably truth, or some truth, and therefore I need to look more closely at it. And so there is trust. And I would be grateful that you trusted ME enuf to send that truth my way. And our relationship ultimately would be strengthened. Or, if we couldn't work it out, then thats ok too, cuz maybe we just not a good 'fit' as friends and we better off steering clear of each other(which is NOT true in this case! :)).
So its not a simple thing.
And I don't think there is a magical 'formula' that will cover it.
Its about the unmeasurable/undefinable grace, trust etc.
But to get to that special place of trust, one might have to slog thru some mud.....that is life. Its not always pretty, but thru strife(or mud!?), we can grow if we wish.
Or we can hide behind walls, and formulas and blocks...
My thots
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