Posted by Dinah on December 3, 2010, at 9:53:37
In reply to Re: blocked, posted by muffled on December 2, 2010, at 13:16:18
This thread is an illustration of why I prefer Dr. Bob's moderation. I can see the possibility for three out of five posters to believe that something wasn't uncivil because they agreed with it. Because they thought it was "true". Or because of their feelings about the poster or the postee.
Muffled, how would you like it if I said your apology wasn't worth more than the paper it was written on? How would you feel if people thanked me for speaking the "truth" that your apology wasn't worth more than the paper it was written on? (I'm not saying that, of course.)
I wouldn't overmuch like it. I'd also wonder how anyone else could know what was in my heart. I'd wonder why their "truth" of what I was feeling was more valid than my "truth" of what I was feeling. The more people who agreed, the worse I'd feel.
I don't think that makes conversation shallow or discourages discussion. In fact, I think discussion is more likely if all participants feel safe and respected.
poster:Dinah
thread:970998
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