Posted by Dinah on December 3, 2010, at 10:51:03
In reply to Re: blocked, posted by muffled on December 3, 2010, at 10:26:05
I suppose it depends on what you think of as "truth".
The kids in middle school thought they knew the truth about me. Hey, they were just saying what was true. Why was I getting all bent out of shape?
Their truth wasn't *the* truth.
How could you know the truth of someone's apology? I've had my apologies doubted before, but I have never apologized for anything I didn't regret. Does that mean I'll never do it again? No, probably not. I'm not perfect and it's not easy to break my own patterns. But I can try, and regret it when I fail.
I thought at the time Phillipa was a better woman than I was. Under the circumstances, apology would have been far, far from my mind. To be hurting myself, and pause to consider that I may have hurt others and to have regretted that... To me that would be a good thing, and something I'd have been unlikely to do in *that* moment.
Perhaps there are other reasons than insincerity for the way it felt to others. Can you imagine how upset you might have been, and how hard it would have been to express yourself? To have done so at all was something I respected. To have not answered in kind was something I respected.
I have long admired your generosity of spirit, and tried to model myself on it. But if you believe that "truth" is productive and good, and that everyone should be free to say whatever they believe to be true, then I can see that we will never agree on Babble's administration.
(Dr. Bob blocking you for a week for saying a curseword felt terribly shaming to you, but you're in favor of posters taking another poster to task publicly? That may feel less shaming to you, but there are those who find it more shaming when it comes from peers.)
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