Posted by shar on February 9, 2004, at 23:49:44
In reply to Marital Milestone, posted by Racer on February 8, 2004, at 20:33:08
Racer,
Hearty congratulations and may you let your anger outward even more often, instead of directing it inward!I read the posts above this one, and I totally agree with Coral's assessment of relative worth. Your Dearest is there NOT out of altruism, but because he gets something positive out of your relationship. Your relative worth, by the measurable standard of what truly matters (heart, soul, spirit, goodness)...well, you are exactly equal. You may be even worth more, because you're the one that's had to experience all the hard times, and survive, and are still working at it. :)
I'm very happy you've expressed anger and had tantrums. The magazine one is more like what I do...except so far, over the years, it's been clearing desktops and/or table tops (after making sure nothing is too breakable). It's oh so rewarding. And, better than hurting myself.
I still have a very hard time expressing anger, it scares me, it oozes out in isolation and deeper depression and more recently anxiety and panic attacks, even though I've had 'permission' from my own Dearest, plus every therapist I've ever seen, plus I KNOW it's bad for me to hold it in...and in...and in... It really kicks up my suicidal ideation.
Anyway, hooray for you! Let the games begin!
Your 'Dueling Banjos' Cousin from the Texas Backwoods,
Shar
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