Posted by Susan47 on October 11, 2005, at 22:47:03
In reply to Re: I'm with AdaGrace, posted by sunny10 on October 11, 2005, at 7:35:21
I probably should be babbling to you, because this is personal but.. I couldn't understand what you were saying about your son. Because you said he's okay but honestly his circumstances are horrible, I don't understand how any child could be doing okay it sounds like his dad is messed up right now big time. Can you spend more time with him, or do you want to? He sounds totally confused, Sunny. He doesn't sound all right from here, at all. I'm wondering if you're really able to pay attention to what's happening for him, right now. Are you, really and truly? I mean, what I'm reading is he has no place to live, no stability in his home life right now, an uncertain future (okay, we all do but there're extremes too), a father who's constantly on the warpath with someone, he thinks he's bisexual at 13, being teased at school for it (I'm not sure either that he could know that at 13, and if he really does then that would concern me, because who is he having sex with and if so is he being safe? 13! Where'd his experience of this come from? Why would any child say this unless (s)he wants the negative attention?)
And if I'm wrong and I hurt your feelings I'm sorry, if I made you angry or defensive or anything then just feel free to blast off on me. How is your personal relationship with this boy, are you two close? It sounds like he tells you a lot, and that's something, but I would still think he needs his mom. I let my own adult son go too soon, and I regret that to this day. So maybe it's my own experience talking.
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