Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2010, at 10:01:50
In reply to I finally stopped eating!, posted by Deneb on September 23, 2010, at 1:52:18
Since your pdoc is worried about your eating plan, and is weighing you for that reason, I wonder if you've thought about your motivations.
Is it purely that you don't want her to think you're fat? She sees you all the time. Whatever she thinks about your usual weight, that's unlikely to change with the scales. Is it that you don't want her to think she has no need to worry? If you're planning to do what she specifically is asking you not to do to "impress" her, what are you trying to impress her with? That you need her help? That she needs to care for you by being concerned for you?
Are you angry with her to specifically do what she's asked you not to do, giving her as the reason why?
If I remember correctly, you always did have worries about graduating and being a grownup in the real world, with all sorts of expectations? If so, I can understand that. Is it possible your eating is designed to take your mind off these fears? Or to make sure that people still take care of you because you aren't ready to be a grownup in the real world?
I'm not saying it's so. I was just wondering if you'd thought about it.
You know that I care about you. So I want what's best for you. I'm actually feeling a bit angry. I'm not going to praise you for your self control in doing something that I'm sure you as well as I know is not good for you. No reputable diet in the world is going to suggest that you eat four pickles and some egg and cheese. Yet you seem to me to be presenting it as a good thing, something you think others will be pleased for you by. Do you honestly think others will be pleased for you for starving yourself? Or concerned? Or do you think the responses may be other than the ones you wish for? If so, have you wondered what it is you are hoping to accomplish?
I do care about you, Deneb. But I sort of feel like your pdoc in that it might be encouraging to you if I engaged with you overmuch over this.
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