Posted by Deneb on April 4, 2006, at 22:41:25
In reply to Boundaries -- both personal and professional » Deneb, posted by Racer on April 4, 2006, at 22:31:28
> Dr Bob, as we know, is a mental health professional, and he writes articles and papers on the subject of Babble. That makes it part of his PROFESSIONAL life, and he can't be paid by the subjects of his research. And The Scarf is payment, according to the tax laws.
Dr. Bob isn't doing research right now. We are not the subjects of research here, right? The scarf is priceless, how can it be considered payment? I don't know tax laws very well.
> I realize you "love" Dr Bob -- but part of loving someone is respecting that person, and that person's boundaries. Do you think you're doing that right now?
I'm just writing about stuff I think about. That's not crossing boundaries right?
> And a word about hugs: Not everyone is OK about hugs, not everyone is OK about being touched.
That's why it's important to ask. I don't plan on hugging Bob without asking. I don't plan on hugging anyone without asking.
> Deneb, can you try to love the scarf you're knitting because *you* are making it? Because it's something that feels good to *you,* without it having to be for someone else? Can you transfer some of that "love" from Dr Bob to yourself?
I can try, but I'm not confident it will work.
Deneb*
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