Posted by Susan J on May 18, 2004, at 11:35:45
In reply to Body acceptance, posted by Dinah on May 18, 2004, at 10:14:34
I am no expert on body acceptance or mother acceptance, for that matter. I understand what you are feeling, though. Sometimes I look in the mirror and look like my mother at her age. And I hate it. Because I don't like what she stands for. But it *isn't* me. I don't know what to say to help out, here, other than keep repeating good, positive stuff about *you* and how *you* are not your mother. I would also go the superficial route and change stuff about me that reminds me of my mom...
what *is* you? Do you wear (or like) trendy stuff? Casual stuff? Practical stuff? Feminine stuff? Sporty stuff? It's not so much making sure you aren't someone else as it is getting things that reflect *you.* Have you ever gone in for a makeover? I got one at a Clinique counter in Hecht's. Of course, it was my sis-in-law who worked there who taught me how to use make-up properly, but it really helped me. Fake as that seems, cuz I should feel good about going au naturale, but it's nice to be able to put a bit of makeup on to accentuate the things I like and hide some stuff I don't like (acne scars). And it looks *natural* not made up. So it really is *me.*
Anyway, I'm a moderate-make-up wearing, short-maintenance free hairstyle wearing, all-black urban clothing wearing chick, totally unlike my high maintenance June Cleaver perfect 50s mom mother.
And I like it. :-)
poster:Susan J
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