Posted by gardenergirl on March 29, 2004, at 22:18:21
In reply to Re:Re: To clarify - for those who are willing, posted by Camille Dumont on March 29, 2004, at 11:32:36
Thanks to everyone who added their thoughts. I really appreciate it. Unfortunately, things have gotten worse. Today the three of us who are friends met with the director. He helped us see how we can handle our own emotions. Being a psychoanalyst, he also talked about projective identification. Can you believe we left with an article to read?????? And he wants us to keep doing as we have, sticking to our guns, but focus on not owning her emotions even if she is introjecting them into us. He said he was kinda hoping something like this would happen, as it shows she is engaged more with the group.
Darned analysts. Couldn't he be CBT, and just tell us what behaviors not to reinforce????
It was actually kinda cute, though. As he was showing us a diagram in a book trying to explain proj. identification, we all knelt down on the floor in front of his chair to get a better look. We joked that it was story hour. So it ended on a much-needed laugh, and he is well aware of the situation. We all feel somewhat better about it, and have shifted our emotions to concern for how yucky she must be feeling.
Whew, and it's just Monday! Also, no crying with T today. Three weeks in a row! (well, just a few tears when he brought up termination last time....)
gg
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