Posted by Camille Dumont on March 29, 2004, at 11:32:36
In reply to Re:Re: To clarify - for those who are willing » gardenergirl, posted by 64Bowtie on March 28, 2004, at 19:42:13
Ok, I didn't read all the posts but here is my grain of salt ... from a totally conflict-avoidant introvert.
I would talk to her privately ... even by email if need be ... and not in a group ... would seem like a confrontation thing. I would tell her that I understand that she feels hurt ... you don't need to agree with her but you can acknowledge her pain.
Then I would talk about the things that happened and ask her if there are things that you (the other people) could do to avoid hurting her feelings ... does she have suggestions on how to change the way things work around there. I mean for things like the radio ... its a small thing ... couldn't an extention cord be bought and then it could be put somewhere more "acceptable" to her.
As for the document thing ... I would explain to her what happened and how there was no other choice than to cancel the job and what not.
It depends on teh person but most ppl are reasonable and will get over their hurt feelings and potentially egos.
Good luck with it all
poster:Camille Dumont
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