Posted by fallsfall on December 3, 2003, at 23:42:20
In reply to Re: You Are Not Alone, posted by geri122 on December 3, 2003, at 18:25:39
Geri,
I know how disappointing it is to finally get up the courage to talk to someone and find that they can't be there for you. Yes, your friends "should" be there, and your family should, too. But sometimes people can't do that. That's why you need to have more than one person to go to - because sometimes, the one you want the most won't be able to be there. I have a hard time realizing that just because someone has asked me to "be there" doesn't mean that I always have to say yes. You are right. It is very complicated and confusing.
But you have to keep trying. I think it is harder for people your age to deal with depression, just because you haven't had as much experience with it as us old fogies.
Maybe it is time to try your teacher. If you aren't comfortable talking about your depression with her, then talk about the fact that your friends seem to be turning away when you need them. Or talk to her about school, or one of your other teachers. Try her out, and see if she will give you her attention, see if she will care. You don't have to talk about the hard stuff right off the bat. If she asks, then you could even say that you aren't ready to talk about that yet, but that you do want to talk about other things with her. Or even stop in on the way to your bus (so you won't have time to talk) and tell her that you miss having her this year, and could you stop by sometime to talk with her even though she isn't your teacher? Just raise your hand a little bit and let her show you how she'll react.
Feeling like you have noone to turn to is so hard. I'm betting that she won't let you down.
Please keep posting here, you can turn to us (and if one of us doesn't get on the computer, there are others who will see your post - someone will see your post).
I know it is hard to keep reaching out, but it is so important to do. You have 3 of our email addresses. If you need us to help in more concrete ways, please email one of us. (Please ask for the email addresses again if you don't have them)
Please don't be alone.
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