Posted by Noa on October 13, 2000, at 9:23:29
In reply to Re: Friends and Differences » Cass, posted by Lisa Simpson on October 13, 2000, at 5:36:59
Cass, it sounds like the group of friends is kind of "stuck" in a tiresome pattern. They set you up, you take the bait, they jump on you. What would happen if the next time they set you up, you didn't respond in the usual way, but, with a smile, pointed out this "routine" and said "don't we have anything better to do than have the same conversation again, where you guys challenge me to express my views and then you all disapprove of what I believe in?" I am not necessarily advocating that you do this, but at least think about this illustration.
I think maybe they don't have anything better to do, ie, the group isn't growing and finding new things to talk about, etc.
I remember being at points in my mid to late twenties when I felt one or two of my college friendships had stagnated. It was devastating to me to come to grips with this. But it made me reach out, branch out to other, new people.
And that is my advice to you. Don't sever your friendship with these people, but perhaps it is time to look for new friends, to branch out.
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