Posted by Squiggles on September 18, 2007, at 15:16:18
In reply to Re: emotional abusers + victims, how do you know?, posted by Clari on September 17, 2007, at 19:06:36
> Thanks for you replies, Squiggles.
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> I have one friend who hasn't met my partner, but says that there is a lot of control going on... that it's a classic case.
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> Yet my partner's family, who spend time with us, believe that I am to blame for everything going wrong.
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> So either both of us are in the wrong...
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> Or we are telling our subjective points of view to our friends and family, and therefore they see the side that we tell them.
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> Which leaves me even more confused.
Perspective is always a problem. Those darn spinning waaltenschaungs :-). Even in cases of blatant physical abuse, different sides can be taken on the truth, when there is something to be gained by the observer. Ultimately, only a judge can draw the most objective conclusion, and even there, ambiguity is rampant according to money, power and celebrity status for example.As a general rule, I believe men are more likely to be the culprits just because of the powerless status many women have and the hormonal difference. That is my opinion for most historical cases of emotional and physical abuse.
Squiggles
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