Posted by Clari on September 17, 2007, at 3:09:21
In reply to Re: emotional abusers + victims, how do you know? » Clari, posted by Squiggles on September 15, 2007, at 15:47:03
I ask because I am unsure whether I am the abuser or the victim.
My partner says I am the abuser (not in so many words, of course, but that I am the one behaving badly).
I'm starting to think that maybe I'm not solely responsible for our (almost) daily arguments, and that maybe I'm dealing with a controlling partner.
Then again, I have a history of relationship sabotage, so maybe I am just seeing the behaviour I want to see in order to leave. Maybe I am behaving badly, and I want to blame that on someone else.
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