Posted by Larry Hoover on June 21, 2006, at 6:57:45
In reply to Oh, for the love of God, posted by gardenergirl on June 20, 2006, at 21:16:24
> I have to ask. If you two (Lar and Gabbi) were to be asked to evaluate how effective your own behaviors here are, what would you say? What are you gaining? What is it costing? Do you think its worth it?
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> From my end, it hurts to watch.
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> ggWhy, oh why, didn't somebody say something while I was being silent.
I can't make anybody else do something. Or not.
I really really thought long and hard about posting anything about her. I really and truly believed that I said nothing more than she herself had said. It turned out I was wrong, and I apologized, quite sincerely.
I was trying to honour her experience, as it parallelled my own. I thought it did, at least. It was a respectful thing I sought to do. However, I did it imperfectly. I would never have said anything, if it wasn't on the boards from her own keyboard. I believed that I had that, but my memory failed me.
Buddy X posts he's going on vacation. Poster Y doesn't see that, but notices Buddy X has been quiet, for a while. An inquiry is made. Person Q, recalling Buddy X's post about going on vacation, shares that public information.
That's what I thought about, when I posted what I did. I truly regret any discomfort arising therefrom. I also truly regret that somebody stood in my sacred thread, decrying the sanctity of how she met her husband.
She fired off an email to me, telling me in detail how she felt. I replied. And I waited. I gave her 24 hours to consider what was going down.
If the stink of old dirty laundry is being put in your face for a long time, without any further provocation, then the laundry is already in the public domain. I tried to obtain privacy. I was denied. And then, suddenly privacy is the sole issue.
My bad.
Lar
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