Posted by Gabbi~G on June 20, 2006, at 23:13:23
In reply to Re: have no, posted by Larry Hoover on June 20, 2006, at 20:21:15
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> For three years, and more, she has had a phone because I paid for it. Out of my meager pension, not saving for my own needs, because she needed it more.No, it was a year and a half. I said it wasn't your responsibility, but you'd send me the minutes, and you said "You didn't like the idea of me having no phone"
And I said I would not let her down.
I would look after her until she got on her feet again. I have sent her packages of supplies, and nutrients, and herbs, and stuff. I sent her $500 last Christmas, just so she could have a different Christmas than the one that she was going to be having. Even though she was setting up a relationship with another man, thinking maybe I didn't notice?>>>I still have the receipt from that deposit.
What it said was "I hear you are getting married, I can't stand the thought of you two living in poverty, so please take this as a wedding present"
If you'd like me to send you the copy, to refresh your memory I will.We had broken up a year and a half before.
Without so much as the courtesy of an acknowledgement.<<<Umm.. I most certainly acknowledged it.
I have that e-mail too
But, I didn't put any strings on the use of that phone time. The thousands of dollars I spent on her phone time and other things she needed did not come with any strings attached. When she found out that she couldn't get some items from Victoria's Secret with the cash, I ordered them on my credit card. So that another man could see the result. And when those items didn't turn out to be what they were expected to be, for whatever reason, *I* refunded the money. I never saw a credit for the return. I didn't even look. There were no strings attached. She only wants you to think of me in another way than that.>>>>How can you say no strings attached bring all this up, and then claim to be upset about another man.
Those are some strings...
<<<I think you think I put a lot more thought into what you do than I actually do.
all I"ve asked is that you leave me alone.
I don't plot against youI have NOT tried to characterize you, well until this most recent post.
I've simply asked that you leave me alone.
Not post to me.
Take that up with her. I'm not interested.
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> I might be slow to see what's going on. I don't even care about how long it takes me to learn something. Some relationships just turn out to be lessons.
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> I just didn't realize I'd get two lessons in one day.
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> It couldn't possibly matter whether Ryan was a generic Internet person, or a Babbler Internet person, could it? Really, does it? I'm sorry I got a trivial detail wrong. I try to remember the important stuff, like when a person's birthday is, so I don't post something that might hurt them, on their birthday, as she did, on April 15.
>***You knew we were getting married! You congratulated me. I have that e-mail too.
We weren't a couple anymore, and I didn't know it was your birthday. That was the day Ryan bought his ticket. Do you think we planned that for your birthday?
I didn't know it was your birthday when we were dating, though you probably don't remember thatLarry.. you and I were history.
Additionally, I know you'd planned to break up with me after our visit 2 years ago!If you deny that fact I *will* post the e-mails or babblemail them.
I don't mind getting blocked, I mind it when my behaviour is described incorrectly, and therefore makes me look duplicitous.
It's quite different from the babble face.
> Hmmmm. I can swear, in email. That's one difference, isn't it? I don't need anybody else's help to realize I'm no saint. But, I'm trying my best, nonetheless.
><<No, I was tired of getting e-mails every time I disagreed with you on the board. You asked me to e-mail you privately.
I refused to do that because you weren't seeing *me* you had made assumptions that were beyond me, and would say things you would not be able to on the board.
I finally ended up saying Please Leave Me ALONE
It was exhausting, and something I'd never had to put up with from anyone before.
I didn't want the negativity. I didn't want to be called a b*tch, or told to "f*ck off" anymore.
I wondered why you kept writing when you'd end up saying those things.
***You accused me of trying to mess with your head by not changing font colours!
When it got to that I just gave up.***With the negative feelings you have toward me, I don't know why leaving me alone, not talking about me is a burden.
...I didn't purposely hijack any thread.
The one time I made the mistake of telling Bobby that you were on a Break I got a letter from you telling me to correct it because you had "Left babble permanently" you also said not to speak for you anymore.
Jay also had to correct something he'd said about you, when he said you were humiliated.Why would I feel any differently about something being said about me?
If you'd not argued with me about my own situation, the subject would have died a lot more quickly.
I didn't argue with you when you corrected me. I went and corrected what I said.
So did JayWhen I made the same request to you, about not speaking about my personal life you called me a b*tch.
Buying me things doesn't mean I owe eternal agreement.
It seems that this is what this is about.
If it's about Ryan
Why the wedding gift?
Why the congratulation letter?Why can't you concentrate on your own good fortune and leave me be.
It's the best for both of us.
My first D.N.P to you was for both our benefits.
I still think it would be.
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