Posted by gardenergirl on June 20, 2006, at 20:23:39
In reply to Re: Please rephrase » gardenergirl, posted by Larry Hoover on June 20, 2006, at 20:08:41
I do not agree that sincerity is a feeling. I view it as a state. If it is a feeling, it's the others' feeling. The one being sincere or not. So, imo, there has not been a feeling expressed.
What I'm looking for, and this is my take on the way "I" statements work based on what I've read here and elsewhere, is how it feels to experience what you perceive as someone's insincerity.
I might feel hurt. Or angry. Or frustrated. Or resigned. Or any number of other internal feelings that come from within.
To me, saying you experience an absence of another's state does not reflect something that comes from within. To me, that comes from external, i.e. the other person.
Others may and likely do view this differently.
gg
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