Posted by Larry Hoover on June 20, 2006, at 1:57:26
In reply to relationship lessons....., posted by Larry Hoover on June 19, 2006, at 20:38:05
> I am really f*cking tired of all this b*llshit. The deafening silence.
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20060525/msgs/652427.html
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20060525/msgs/652434.html
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> How, on Earth, did that lovely little couplet get past the civility guidelines? Was it so skillfully wrought, that it went through a pretty little loophole? Does nobody know what sophistry is? What rude means? It wasn't a compliment. It wasn't civil.And the sarcastic tone I heard in the second post did not soothe the hurt. It did not feel like a sincere apology, at all. Or is hearing sarcasm my fault? What's the guideline for that? People get blocked for sarcasm. I would think that in a situation where a block was imminent, any post intended to represent an apology must most clearly avoid any possibility of being seen as sarcastic. There is a special duty, in that case, to ensure that sincerity is obvious.
> Right above me, here on this board, is the worst example of thread hijacking buzzkill b*llshit I have ever seen. You know which thread I'm talking about. You know which post I'm talking about. And not a word is said about it.
I apologize for characterizing that post in this way. I was very upset.
I do not feel that the rules are evenly applied. I do not feel the same "generosity of interpretation" is equally distributed. I have been blocked twice for things I didn't even say. And people avoid blocking for things they clearly did.
Are we going to allow the "say anything you want to, but apologize" form of civility? Trust me, that is a very slippery slope.
There is a great difference between correcting a mis-spoken phrase, and that of "retracting" something that does not meet that criterion.
I don't want to see this happen, ever again. And I don't think the administrators did a good job on it. It should have been flagged, and brought to Bob's attention, at the very least.
I get blamed for saying things I didn't say, and end up blocked. But people say things to me that I would never in a million years have said. But when said to me, they walk away from it. It's not the first time, either. Not the second. You get the drift.
You can't convince me that's fair.
And I am truly tired of people saying that black is white, because that's the Babble way.
Lar
P.S. I was not going to say another word, but the onslaught of babblemail convinced me to explain myself better, at the very least.
Lar
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