Posted by bassman on April 21, 2006, at 14:02:17 [reposted on April 24, 2006, at 12:14:52 | original URL]
In reply to No problem... » bassman, posted by Racer on April 21, 2006, at 13:03:25
Just re-read your post-got even more out of it than the first time. You've got a great writing style; it's very entertaining and emotionally direct. O.K., here's a couple situations:
Wife comes home every day from work, fuming mad about the same things and rants about them-the first thing out of her mouth. The first question I have is, "why would anyone want to subject someone else to that?"-I'm not one who rants-more the short phrases or I'm just quiet, so I don't get the ranting. But more important-what can I do that would be useful and what should I avoid?
Do you have any advice on how to process the negativity so that I don't feel so stressed by it?
It seems to me that the procrastinating is sort of of a form of control, at least that's the way it feels-maybe?
What can be done to have her express whatever it is that is really bothering her (I just had the thought that maybe exactly what she is ranting about is IT-look no farther)-she is not a "what's bothering you, honey" person-she doesn't want to come into contact with that. I really appreciate your help-sorry my post is all over the map...
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