Posted by orchid on April 21, 2006, at 13:51:19 [reposted on April 24, 2006, at 12:14:52 | original URL]
In reply to dealing with passive aggression, posted by bassman on April 21, 2006, at 7:53:59
Just wanted to say, I appreciate your efforts at trying to help and understand your wife. My husband's efforts to understand me really helps me.
I don't know anything about passive-aggression, but asking her to go a T might be a good place to start.
Sounds like she is defensive and you trying to get through the defense may not work. A neutral third party might be better at getting to her.
When I was defensive, I didn't listen to anything my husband said. But I listened to the same things when told by my T :-)
I think that is probably best now for you - back off and let a T do the handling for you if possible.
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