Posted by fairywings on October 12, 2005, at 21:34:15
In reply to Re: what women want » fairywings, posted by Mal on October 11, 2005, at 16:08:50
> Hey, good to hear from you, FW...
Thanks Mal! ; )
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> Thanks, FW, seems like you understand. DH isn't really avoiding sex, exactly. THings have gotten A LOT better since this thread started. :) heheThat's good! ; )
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> Wow. 4 kids would take a LOT of energy! I know we need to get some US time... I am getting more ME time than before.ME time is important! You have to take care of yourself to be a good mom and wife. Time away from both can be important, although that advice is easier to give than to take. When she's older you'll see that more than you see it now, and with each child I think it's even more important.
>>I think part of it is that now that I am not working, I feel like my DD is my job, and that leaving her is shirking my responsibility. And I figure that is what he's thinking too.
Oh no, no, no! Yes, she is your job, but does anyone work 24/7? NOT! And moms should be no exception. Just like he needs his run, you need your time to renew yourself. I think ANY T would tell you that! Both my current T and my ex T ask(ed) me repeatedly what I do for me, what I do to pamper me, what I do to blow off steam. It's expected and neccessary, please do it! And, what's left after the kids are grown? Your marriage, so you have to make time for that too, it has to be a priority.
>>We do have a good relationship, but sometimes, just for a couple of days, we get snippy. And that usually coincides with when my sexual appetite is not quite getting satiated...
Yep, got ya on that one! I have a very high sex drive, so I fully understand.
>> Yes, this is very possible. He is very much into planning for the future, and I certainly don't want to make him feel resentful toward me.I would hope he wouldn't be, since it's a partnership. It's not like you're making unilateral decisions. You're thinking of the future too, the future of your family and your daughter - who you don't want to be an only child. That's understandable.
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I am sure he's trying to reduce the probability of getting pregnant.Maybe you could ask him. It's good to know where each other stands on the important stuff.
Hope I don't sound too bossy, don't mean to be, just "been there, done all that". ; )fairywings/Jazzy
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