Posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 22:52:06
In reply to Re: what women want » Susan47, posted by Mal on October 8, 2005, at 16:09:44
Hi Mal,
I agree with Tamar, having some time with your husband is a priority, and with 2 kids it'll be that much harder. My ex-t, who was CBT, said that just a 20 min. walk after dinner every night was a great thing to do (any chance you could run with him?), but he encouraged me to find time to go out with my dh. We have 4 kids, so I understand how hard it can be. We have, and it's made a big difference, but getting the attention you want and the kind of attention you want seems to be as big a problem.
I think men need to be told, to be educated, sometimes I think they just don't get it, and it's not because they don't want to, they just don't see things the same way. They're so set on the future, that they don't stop to see what they've got and appreciate it.
Is it possible that he sees another child as a threat if he's not happy in his job? Like, if you had another he'd HAVE to stay there?
Will he open up to you? Can you tell him how you feel, and see if he feels pressure at work? Can you see if there's some reason he's avoiding sex? Maybe ask him how he feels about another child and when. (but don't connect the sex questions with the more kids questions if there's any possibity he's avoiding it so you won't get pregnant.)
Good luck!
fw
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