Posted by Mal on October 7, 2005, at 7:15:49
In reply to Compicated/what women want, posted by Mal on October 6, 2005, at 18:41:15
Ok, the WHAT WOMEN WANT part of my rant...
DH and I have been married for 10 years in December. I have stayed home with our daughter since she was born.
When we first married, DH was 32 and he had a right healthy sex drive. I was 25 and once or twice a week was EEEEE-NOUGH. Then as I have gotten older my appetite has really picked up, and his attention and energies have been spent elsewhere...
Sometimes I feel like DH takes me for granted (not nearly as bad as a LOT of husbands, but bad enough to irritate me). I guess what I am driving at is that I'd still ike a little romance... For instance, sometimes he doesn't really look at me. I would LOVE for him to look at me like I was beautiful... Or act like he couldn't keep his hands off me, like I was irresistable. Or when he does look at me, and he notices I have make up on, instead of saying, "Gosh, you look so good," he said, "You are wearing make up."
Another example... He is looking at getting me a VERY nice watch for our upcoming anniversary. SOmething I NEVER would have asked for-pretty expensive!! He showed me one he had picked out, referred to it as a "10 year service award" and asked how I liked it, and I said somehting about I'd like him to have it engraved with something nice. He says, "Like what?" as though he didn't have a sentimental thought in his head about me. Just rubbed me the wrong way. I said something ugly like "Still givin bl*w jobs after all these years", and that rubbed HIM the wrong way!
THis is not to say that I am neglected or that DH is cheating. HE doesn't have time for that. I would just like him to be a little more passionate about ME. He is a TERRIFFIC dad, which makes me all the more passionate about him. But since we had our daughter, we have been out NO WHERE alone. No dates. We might luck up and have a nice evening in a restaurant while she sleeps on the bench seat beside us, but as far as leaving her home while we have dinner and a movie- ah, no.
ANd right after I started this thread last night, he did *ahem* pay me some really great attention. ;) Even with a little more passion than usual, so things are much better. But why don't men get it that women really want to feel beautiful, appreciated, and sexy?
Enough for now.
MAL
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