Posted by Tamar on October 7, 2005, at 8:20:22
In reply to what women want, posted by Mal on October 7, 2005, at 7:15:49
Yeah, I agree. More romance. And being looked at as a woman, not just a person.
Sometimes I really want to be sure my husband is still attracted to me so I make an effort with my appearance and he just doesn’t look at me. Or I say things about how much I like his body and he pretty much ignores me… Sometimes when we’re having sex he says nice things about my appearance, but for me it’s important to hear that stuff outside the bedroom… I have a very healthy sexual appetite but very little confidence in my appearance, so if he’s not forthcoming I end up quite frustrated. And I also HATE it when he turns me down.
Your story about the watch was interesting. I’ve had lots of conversations like that with my husband. If you asked him about the ‘like what’ remark he’d probably insist that it didn’t mean he doesn’t have sentimental thoughts about you, but that he wanted you to tell him which particular phrase would make you happiest. That’s the sort of thing my husband would claim, anyway. It’s funny how attempts to be romantic, like picking out an anniversary present, can lead to snippy remarks on both sides. No wonder it’s hard to get more romance.
I reckon the number one priority is to get some regular time alone with your husband. Find a babysitter and go out for dinner, or go for a walk, or go to a movie. Just the two of you. At LEAST one evening a month. Looking after kids is exhausting and even the sweetest people can become resentful. Is there someone you can trust to look after your child for a couple of hours…?
Tamar
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