Posted by caraher on September 14, 2005, at 14:31:12
In reply to My husband was going to have an affair...., posted by LadyBug on September 14, 2005, at 0:02:05
It's not over if you (and he) don't want it to be.
You asked how someone can be interested in someone else and love their spouse. It happens every day, to millions of married people! People are just built to be attracted to others, and a wedding ring does switch that off. Love for a spouse lies in what one does with that attraction for someone else.
Your pain is understandable, and it definitely sounds like your husband was entertaining an affair. Whether or not anything physical happened he seems to have crossed the line that faithfulness to you should create. Your future with him rests on whether he learns where that line should be and honors it -- and whether you can become satisfied that he's done so.
Sorry to hear about your discovery, and may you have the best of luck in the trying days ahead!
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