Posted by sunny10 on September 14, 2005, at 8:52:40
In reply to My husband was going to have an affair...., posted by LadyBug on September 14, 2005, at 0:02:05
It sounds to me like he wanted you to know. Maybe he feels something is lacking in your relationship.
I think you have to talk to him before you drive yourself crazy. Ask him why he is interested in this woman. Ask him if he plans to break up his marriage of 20 years for a fleeting fantasy. Show him how stupid that would be. Mid-life crises happen to most men, but they don't have to actually ACT on these fantasies. Remember, too, that he DIDN'T act on them. She is 17 years younger- and probably a lot less mature. Maybe she was as confused by the attention he was paying her as you are. Maybe the idea of it turning into a love affair is all in her mind...
But if it's not okay for you that he is so closely involved in her life, tell him so. Remind him that if he has some extra energy, he can help make YOUR life easier.
But talk. I know a guy who had an actual affair for three years. He and his wife discussed it three years ago and they are still together. It can happen.
Good luck,
sunny10
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