Posted by caraher on July 27, 2005, at 14:33:17
In reply to porn?, posted by Mal on July 26, 2005, at 20:47:00
From my male perspective it's really about respect, not prudery. If you're not comfortable that should seal it. It would be selfish to coerce someone you love into doing something s/he is not comfortable with.
Other comments... I disagree that any man would share them. Many would, sure, perhaps even most. But I've done something like this and destroyed the evidence, entirely on my own initiative, for the many reasons already mentioned and without "sharing" any of it with the world.
I'm glad your refusal did not turn into a point of contention. I agree that you should accept it as a compliment and be glad that he is understanding and respectful of your wishes. If you want to "indulge his fantasies" to some degree make sure you do so on terms *you* are comfortable with. It would be bad to feel that you just "gave in" and did something which might later breed resentment toward him
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