Posted by caraher on May 27, 2005, at 16:27:45 [reposted on May 28, 2005, at 17:43:54 | original URL]
In reply to Any opinions from men out there??? (nm), posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 27, 2005, at 7:34:44
OK, I'll bite...
I think monogamy is tough and I certainly do fantasize about women other than my wife. This has been true through almost 19 years of marriage. I think if I were to have sex with another woman my wife would be hurt and extremely angry, but I also think she would eventually forgive and forget, particularly if it were "meaningless" sex. "Emotional infidelity" is another matter entirely, and in fact I have gone through a rough time with her over a non-sexual internet "relationship."
I'm a bit unusual, especially among men, in that my wife is my "first and only" sex partner. I do wonder about what it would be like with other women but I don't obsess about it, and don't think I would actually do it. I don't care what she fantasizes about (especially if it makes her more interested in blowing off some sexual steam); if she were to have sex with another man I'd be a jealous but mostly take it as a reflection on myself (just because that's my not-always-healthy habit). But I don't think that's at all likely. She's WAY into monogamy to the point of making almost obnoxiously judgmental remarks about divorce.
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