Posted by cricket on May 26, 2005, at 7:09:30 [reposted on May 28, 2005, at 17:43:53 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Ever wonder about monogomy? » Jazzed, posted by Tamar on May 26, 2005, at 5:05:57
I guess I am probably different than most women on this point, or maybe because I am in a latino culture where I know that I don't have a choice about it anyway, but my husband's sexual fidelity is not at all important to me. I mean I do worry about diseases but he has his girlfriends, I know it and he knows I know it.
And it's really okay. I mean the poor guy doesn't have very much else in his life, no education, a horrible grinding job, no real hope of anything getting any better, a son (not mine) who's spent the last 10 years in prison, a horrible, narcissistic mother who demands money every week and let's face it because of my own issues I am not that available to him emotionally. So I would never begrudge him the attentions of a few women who think that he is the hottest thing this side of the planet.
Now, of course, as he gets older it becomes an issue of not enough to go around for all of us. In fact this morning after a failed attempt at sex, I said you have to leave a spot for me and he was all apologetic and promising. But personally I think it's time for that Viagra prescription.
As far as my own fidelity is concerned, that's another story. There have certainly been desires for other men but never enough actually to want to act on it and I'm not sure that there ever will be. I feel a profound sexual connection with my husband (unfortunately that's the only connection I feel) and as long as we're together in that way I really don't care who else is getting some.
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