Posted by alesta on May 10, 2005, at 11:23:30
In reply to Re: Susan..or anyone who feels like rambling on..., posted by sunny10 on May 10, 2005, at 8:21:44
> You told Susan that you thought that maybe you could get through the romance part to get to the close frinedship part, but that you are unsure if you want to "work your life around theirs". (Not an exact quote, I know)
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> I think the whole point is "making a life WITH", not "around".
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> Do you think that would be possible for you? If not, why not? (I'm not trying to interrogate you; I'm attempting to develop a theory for myself about why we "feelers" spend so much time in pain instead of so much time with the elation feelings)
hi sunny10! how are you missy? :) glad to have another fellow 'rambler'..sometimes it's fun to let loose and just talk "feelings", ya know?anyways, back to the discussion..ummm..
> You told Susan that you thought that maybe you could get through the romance part to get to the close frinedship part, but that you are unsure if you want to "work your life around theirs".
oops..i did day that, didn't i?:) i was just rambling so i didn't inhibit myself i guess...funny what comes out of your mouth..i hate it when that happens. :)
i guess i'm feelling pretty negative right now about relationships. i can't envision what it would be like to have a close friendship with a mate..i don't know how common close, happy friendships are with mates anyway..and if it would be fulfilling and worth it..guess it could happen for me..maybe..i don't know.
i know you have to take that chance if you choose to find out. i'm just not sure if i'm willing do that or if i should embrace being fulfilled on my own. i know it's a choice i will have to make, with no clear answers. i do know that i really enjoy my own company, after i have gotten over relationships that have ended..
i just got out of a relationship, so my feelings on relationships are definitely tainted on the negative side..probably a good thing..they might be protecting me from getting into *another* one!
can we talk about something else? lol i just realized how much a hate this topic i brought up!!!
kisses,
aim
poster:alesta
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