Posted by gardenergirl on February 6, 2005, at 17:10:50
In reply to Re: wanting motherly love - for Cubic especially » QuietHeart, posted by cubic_me on February 6, 2005, at 13:51:52
You're right. It's another form of transference. The technical term is extra-therapy transference. It's important and wonderful that you can look at it this way, because I think that goes a long way to feeling okay about your feelings.
It's very human to need and to want this. It's very sad when we do not get it as a child and have to struggle to find it as an adult. Certainly it's okay to seek this in others, but that also involves making yourself vulnerable to them. I am lucky that I have a lovely husband who can provide this when I ask. (now if he's only learn to do it routinely...:) Also, I have an aunt and uncle who give love freely. When I am around them I just soak it up like a sponge.
One thing that has been helpful for me is to try to nurture my child-self. I try to visualize us together...me as an adult and me as a child at the same time. And I try to re-parent that child and let her know she is loved and wanted. It can be a very emotional exercise, but I find it valuable.
((((((to all who need)))))))))))))
gg
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