Posted by cubic_me on February 6, 2005, at 13:51:52
In reply to Re: wanting motherly love - for Cubic especially, posted by QuietHeart on February 5, 2005, at 17:11:04
> Anyway, why do you think this has lessened since you started therapy? My therapist is a woman so she is just another person I latch on to.
I latched on to my therapist too, but I think I have developed more but I became more independent from her when I began opening up more to a few select people, including my [then] new boyfriend. That was probably because other people were starting to give me the things that I was craving. At the beginning this was very difficult - I hide my depression etc very well, and had hardly talked about it, and as soon as I talked I began to really attach to the people I talked to, but that has faded significantly now.
However much I want motherly love, I certainly do not want it from my mother, I find that strange, but understandable at the same time. I suppose I don't feel that she deserves to know much about me.
I've always thought of these feelings as another form of transference - just on to people other than my therapist. It's painful and addictive at the same time, and that's what makes it so hard.
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