Posted by QuietHeart on February 4, 2005, at 19:47:28
Ok, so hope this is the appropriate board, I think it is. My issue has to do with my tendency to motherize every professional woman I meet. Basically, I like my mom and everything but have had serious issues with her in the past, and deep down we are very different and don't have an affectionate relationship. I am pretty sure there were some early childhood bonding issues too, as in I felt rejected by her from an early age and didn't bond so well with her. Now, as an adult (I am 26) I am an established professional living away from her and have a decent relationship with her. I am very educated and she is not. We differ significantly along these lines.
At this age, and perhaps because of my history, I CRAVE a mother figure and fantasize about some women in my life cuddling me, hugging me, being tender with me, just asking about my life, holding me while I cry. lately, it's been my boss and I am kind of obsessed. I want so bad for her to get close to me. I daydream about us being friends of sorts (but maybe mother and daughter in a way). Is this weird? I find I dream about this with so many professional accomplished women that come across my path. it makes me feel weird bc I almost want this kind of affection from a woman more than I want a relationship with a man. I know I am not gay though, I think I want to the tenderness and guidance. Help! I feel like a freak.
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