Posted by Susan47 on September 29, 2004, at 21:42:33
In reply to Living in the basement, posted by Michael_M on September 29, 2004, at 16:20:40
Hi Michael,
I moved out from my home in February this year, leaving my husband and two children with him.
I left before we killed each other. I thought about leaving for about 9 years. The last couple of years were, as you know, I'm sure ... hell on toast. God it hurt so much leaving my kids. My husband and I wept, and we wept together and separately and with the kids and without them. We made a joint decision that I'd move out. He said it was forever, if I left, and he told me I couldn't take the children. He said I wasn't stable enough (he was right though).
I thought I'd be on the street, begging. I wouldn't be able to get work (do you work?). I thought it was the end of life as I knew it. And it was. Life is better now. Tonight my soon to be ex- and I took the kids to the beach. We have dinner together a couple of times a week, as a family. I see the children pretty much every single day. We're the happiest we've ever been, as a family. My husband and I aren't intimate, physically or emotionally. We do get along well, though, when we really try hard, and we're trying to get along now and being more successful than ever. I think we probably have something really rare right now, and I hope it lasts, but therapy and meds also helped me move to this place. I kind of dragged my ex- along. It would've been very easy for him to have a bitter separation. He's bought into the cra* that it's all a bad thing.
Good luck, I wish you the best in everything :))
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