Posted by annierose on August 6, 2011, at 7:20:41
In reply to help - feels like an impasse, posted by lucielu2 on August 5, 2011, at 5:10:45
I have not gone through this yet (next year for me). I want to offer you my support and faith that she will come around. I agree with Daisy that this is how she has chosen to practice seperating from you - this physical isolation - before she leaves.
I spent yesterday with a mom of twin girls who are going to college in a few weeks. One of the girls pretty much rolled her eyes at everything the mom said - even if it was a simple statement like - "boy there is a lot of traffic this morning". Privately she said to me, "do you see what I'm living with?" And then I read your post and thought, this is tough for kids and their parents. I'm not looking forward to next summer at all.
You are also slowly seperating from your therapist - cutting back on weekly sessions - so I do think there is something there in that angst. Maybe too - and this is just a random thought - now that you added that second weekly session to help you through this period (and good for you btw) - you are feeling differently about how it feels to go twice a week. Does it feel less intimate than you remembered? Do you remember him as acting differently when you came more often? What I'm getting at, maybe it feels to you, that he has begun seperating from you - or that is your underlying worry. Again - pure projection on my part.
I would also talk to her. Tell her you wonder why she has chosen to isolate herself and that you want her to know that you are there for her.
Teenagers are interesting. Definitely harder than baby-hood. Good Luck.
Is she going far away? Will you be able to visit her on weekends?
poster:annierose
thread:992867
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20110706/msgs/992947.html