Re: I try to never do this, but.... » 10derheart

Posted by jane d on December 21, 2010, at 2:27:21

In reply to Re: I try to never do this, but...., posted by 10derheart on December 20, 2010, at 12:12:54

> It's as if he slit a hole in some part of me and emptied out my insides, suddenly. Really suddenly.

> But my metaphor falls apart, as someone with no insides couldn't ache this much.

10derheart,
This is the perfect description. It's horrible but it's perfect. The closest I came to your experience was believing for a while that I had been abruptly terminated. It's not the same as what you're going through of course but this was exactly how I felt. I could never found such descriptive words however.
I think Daisy hit on a key part of why this is so awful. That other people aren't there to offer support the way they would if you'd gotten divorced or suffered some more conventional loss. And then I think maybe we internalize that judgment that it shouldn't be important adding guilt on top of the misery. I'm glad you posted here. At the very least we know what a big loss it is.
Jane

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