((( 10derheart )))

Posted by Dinah on December 20, 2010, at 11:35:24

In reply to I try to never do this, but...., posted by 10derheart on December 19, 2010, at 21:52:28

It hurts to lose contact with someone we love. The similarities between unwanted termination and unwanted divorce or being dumped in a long term relationship are striking. It hurts. It really hurts.
For me anyway, it makes it even worse that there is nothing really that can be done. We have power only over ourselves and can't really change their decisions or their feelings and beliefs. Being impotent can make me frantic. I'm not always good at acceptance of the things I cannot change. I'm not sure if you react the same way, but if so, it can add even more intensity to the feelings of loss.
I probably don't need to remind you that he really does care about you, even if he's made this decision. He kept in contact in a way my therapist never would have. That may not help very much right now, as the remaining ties are broken, but maybe in the future it will.
I wish there was something I could really do.

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