Posted by Dinah on May 14, 2009, at 9:26:27
In reply to How It Went, posted by Daisym on May 13, 2009, at 20:29:00
It is too hard to do alone. I'm glad you have us.
And your therapist, as odd as it sounds. What movie is that line from? Something about being upset and wanting to tell my best friend about it, but my best friend is you?
I really liked what Antigua said. It was what I was thinking. That to some extent he may not be at his best. But that there are stages in therapy, and it's not necessary to end therapy at the end of a stage, and it's not even necessary to agree to the therapist's pacing of the end of a stage. But life does change, d*mnit. I hate that.
Maybe, since it turns out that he didn't intend to say what you heard, you might be the one who is ready for a transition to a new phase of your relationship, however much you dread it. I always thought that one of my therapist's moments of genius was to stress from the beginning that I didn't have to be in distress to see him. It wouldn't encourage me to feel better if I knew feeling better meant losing my therapist. Maybe young Daisy is looking for reassurance that she will be loved and welcomed when she has happier news to relate, or even when she has nothing of particular interest to say? Is she? Are you willing to listen to her, and make her part of your life, when she isn't in pain? Is your therapist?
It's not manipulation to be afraid of losing something vital to you.
poster:Dinah
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