Posted by lucie lu on March 11, 2009, at 8:11:36
In reply to Negative transference, posted by wittgensteinz on March 11, 2009, at 7:24:10
Witti,
This pdoc sounds to me like trouble. The work that you are doing with your T is hard enough, I don't see what is to be gained by taking on another challenging relationship, this one likely to be no-win. That really sounds counter-productive to me. Wouldn't it be better to take that considerable energy it would take to deal with this man and put it instead in sessions with your T? I can imagine this pdoc being a real distraction to you, that you would come back from seeing him all upset and then need to try to process that in your regular therapy. You can ask your T if he really thinks this would be productive for your therapy or end up just being a painful distraction. It could even end up being a means of sidetracking or evading whatever is happening in your therapy by diverting your focus. I really think we do not have unlimited supplies of this sort of energy and we need to spend it wisely if we are going to get better.
As for someone just to get meds from, I would agree but he doesn't sound at all good in that area either. He gives you a diagnosis neither you nor your T believe in, and worse, is prescribing things that don't work well for you. And worst of all, he is unresponsive to you when you give him feedback on the meds and doesn't consistently return your calls. IMO, for any doctor, this would be grounds to look elsewhere. Are there really so few pdocs where you are? I would personally not want to work with this man. In fact, I would not want to work with anyone who did not want to work with me. These things happen, but then it is the patient's job to move on and select a better clinician.
I think this situation sounds like a lot more potential harm than good, and at the very least a lot of wasted time, money, energy, and emotional resources, and maybe even stall your current therapy. From what you say, it sounds like a potential repetition compulsion sort of thing re your mother. Would that really be helpful, do you need another example of this in your life, does it really achieve anything? I would suggest looking elsewhere.
Good luck,
Lucie
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