Posted by SLS on March 7, 2009, at 14:27:47
In reply to Re: Sexual Misconduct/ What my T has said and Done » SLS, posted by fleeting flutterby on March 7, 2009, at 11:31:40
> > If my female psychotherapist were to make unambiguous sexual advances toward me, I would terminate my relationship with her immediately. For me, she is eye-candy and has many traits that I would want in a mate.<<
> -----flutterby: I think you just said part of it right there-- to you she is "eye candy"--I see what I see. My brain reacts as it was wired to and subsequently nurtured to. Like I said, for me, she is eye-candy, but that does not preclude me from seeing much more. I just do not make a habit of denying my male traits. I find it easier to acknowledge them and process the issues that come of them.
> In our current culture males are allowed and most times encouraged to indulge in the "eye candy" activity...
Part of the reason men indulge in such activity is because they are wired to be stimulated by visual cues - probably more so than women. I don't know that women are discouraged from doing this. Well, I would hope not, anyway. I have no problem with it. Do you remember the Chippendales Dancers? What was the attraction there for women? I don't profess to know all of the reasons, but certainly women enjoy eye-candy too.
Males and females are different. Nature has constructed their brains significantly differently. For instance, the differences in the sizes of the corpus callosums - with females having a decidedly larger one - might indicate better communication between the two hemispheres of the female brain.
I understand your "logic" versus "emotional" dichotomy. There is also a bit of a dichotomy in that men are more linear in their thinking while women tend to consider multiple perceptions simultaneously. Women are much better at multitasking than are men. This is just the beginning of quite a list of differences.
"Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" is a great thesis on the way these difference manifest psychologically and communicatively.
I don't believe that I am sexist. I just see what I see - differences. I don't believe that I am racist either, but I am very capable of seeing black and white, and all the other colors that we humans come in. I hate the "I'm color blind" expression. I am equally resistent to the idea that we should be politically correct and not recognize the differences between the sexes that science has reinforced exist.
I am offended when women are treated like sex objects with no other intrinsic value. I particularly abhor the TV commercials that are shown during football season.
I am a great admirer of women. I wasn't taught to be that way. I just see what I see - differences. I like to celebrate the differences that exist beneath the flesh.
What I don't understand about the differences between the sexes is less important than recognizing that those differences exist.
It is logical.
:-)
- Scott
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