Posted by fleeting flutterby on March 7, 2009, at 11:31:40
In reply to Re: Sexual Misconduct/ What my T has said and Done, posted by SLS on March 7, 2009, at 6:29:26
> If my female psychotherapist were to make unambiguous sexual advances toward me, I would terminate my relationship with her immediately. For me, she is eye-candy and has many traits that I would want in a mate.<<
-----flutterby: I think you just said part of it right there-- to you she is "eye candy"--
In our current culture males are allowed and most times encouraged to indulge in the "eye candy" activity... however women are discouraged doing this....(we are expected to engage emotionally instead) how much male porn media is there for women to partake in, compared to female porn that men partake in? Women are raised to "connect" emotionally with a male, for the most part.>>However, it is more important to me to get well than to get laid or romantically involved.<<
------flutterby: It's great that you see it that way and feel it that way. I think however that, generally speaking, women have a trained desire to be accepted by males. It is considered good(maybe even the ultimate best, for some women) in this culture, for a man to sexually desire you. Women are bombarded daily by images of how it seems to be a value that men have-- that we be sexy, the best women are the ones that are sexually desirable, we have to look awesome, etc..etc...(you probably already know all this, just thought I'd rehash it, as it seems to fit with the female/therapist situation as well-- in some circumstances of course)
> I wonder if there is a fundamental difference between the sexes in the way they do or do not become attached emotionally to their therapists.<<
-----flutterby: I do believe that, generally speaking again, that females live more through emotions while males live more through logic. Not that males aren't able to have emotions or that females don't have logic..... just that the general drive for females is emotional and for males it's logic. (this is all generally speaking-- there are always exceptions within each gender of course)I think it's nice that you wonder such things about the genders-- I think it always makes for a better human when one tries to understand another's life. :o)
flutterby-mandy
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