Posted by lucie lu on January 7, 2009, at 11:11:06
In reply to New Year, New Rules, posted by Annierose on January 6, 2009, at 18:13:28
Annie,I wish I had more time to respond to your post. But I just wanted to add that instead of a Tuesday slot issue, I had a Friday slot issue. We met Tues-Fri for a long time but gradually, for various reasons within me, I began to dread Friday sessions and would actually fall apart after many of them. We struggled to make sense of it and to use it. Finally, I just said I don't want to come on Fridays anymore, period. He said OK and after no small amount of fiddling, came up with a Mon, Thurs schedule. In some respects, it does not work as well (not the same times on both days so I get confused some times), but at least we don't meet on the dreaded Fridays. What meant the most to me was (1) being able to just say no, I am no longer willing to meet then, and (2) that he took my wishes seriously enough to change our mutual schedule. He knew how I felt and never questioned when I said I'd had enough. Sounds like maybe that's what was missing in your equation.
Take care,
Lucie
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thread:872528
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